Hey, fellas! So you finally got her number, huh? Congrats! Now comes the hard part: NOT messing it up. Texting can make or break your chances with a girl. Get it right, and she’ll be looking forward to seeing your name pop up on her screen. Get it wrong, and you’ll be ghosted faster than a bad WiFi signal.
Let’s talk about the 7 texting mistakes that are killing her attraction for you (and what to do instead). Buckle up!
1. The “Hey” Message (A.K.A. The Snoozefest)
If your idea of starting a conversation is sending a plain “Hey,” I have bad news: she’s already bored. Girls get this dry, lifeless text all the time, and it makes you look lazy.
What to do instead: Be different. Start with something playful, funny, or intriguing. Example:
- Bad: “Hey.”
- Better: “Hey, I need your opinion on something super important: Do penguins have knees?” (Boom! Instant curiosity and fun.)
2. Sending a Novel-Length Text
Listen, my guy, you’re not writing a love letter from the 1800s. If your text takes more than three thumb-scrolls to read, she’s out. Long-winded messages scream “desperate” and can feel overwhelming.
What to do instead: Keep it short, playful, and to the point. If you have a lot to say, break it up into multiple texts or, better yet, call her.
3. The “Dry Texter” Syndrome
If your entire conversation consists of “cool,” “nice,” “lol,” or “k,” she’s going to lose interest faster than you can say “left on read.”
What to do instead: Match her energy! If she sends a fun message, engage with it. Ask open-ended questions. Show personality.
- Bad:
- Her: “I just saw the cutest puppy today!”
- You: “Nice.”
- Better:
- Her: “I just saw the cutest puppy today!”
- You: “Wait… was it cuter than me? Be honest.”
4. Texting Too Much (The Cling Factor)
I get it. You like her. But spamming her phone is the fastest way to make her lose attraction. If you’re texting her morning, noon, and night without much response, slow down, my dude.
What to do instead: Give her space. Let her miss you a little. If she likes you, she’ll text back when she has time.
5. Waiting Too Long to Reply (Trying to Play It Too Cool)
Yes, playing hard to get can work, but waiting hours or days to reply just to seem cool? That backfires. She’ll think you’re either not interested or just playing games, either way, not attractive.
What to do instead: Keep it natural. If you’re busy, that’s fine! But don’t ignore her on purpose just to “look cool.”
6. Overusing Emojis (Or Not Using Them At All)
Look, a well-placed emoji is great. But if your texts look like a hieroglyphics puzzle, she’s going to feel like she’s texting a middle schooler.
What to do instead: Use emojis sparingly to add personality, not as a substitute for actual words. Example:
- Bad: “Hey what’s up??? “
- Better: “Hey, what kind of trouble are you causing today? “
7. Being Too Available (The No-Challenge Vibe)
If she knows she can text you anytime and you’ll drop everything, you’re making things too easy. Girls love a bit of a challenge. If you’re always available, she might assume you have nothing going on.
What to do instead: Have a life! Be busy, have hobbies, focus on yourself. When you text, make it mean something.
Final Thoughts: Make Her Want to Text You
Texting isn’t about playing games; it’s about creating fun, engaging conversations that make her excited to hear from you. Avoid these texting mistakes, and watch how much better your interactions get.
Now tell me: What’s the worst texting mistake you’ve ever made? Drop it in the comments (so we can all learn what not to do).