Alright, fellas, let’s be real for a second. Have you ever tried talking to a girl, only to have her roll her eyes, give you that “Seriously?” look, or just walk away? Yeah, it happens. But guess what? The problem might not be your face (phew). It could be the words coming out of your mouth!
There are certain words that instantly turn girls off, words that make you seem boring, clueless, or just plain annoying. And if you want to keep her attention (and maybe even make her smile), then you NEED to avoid these at all costs.
So, here are 9 words you should never say to a girl if you actually want a shot. Let’s go!
1. “Relax.”
Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, makes a girl more not relaxed than being told to “relax.” If she’s upset about something and you drop this little grenade into the convo, congratulations, you just made it worse. Instead, try listening and actually validating her feelings. Trust me, she’ll notice the difference.
2. “Whatever.”
Oh, so you don’t care? Good to know! Because that’s exactly how she’s going to feel when you say this. Even if you’re trying to avoid an argument, a careless “whatever” tells her you’re not interested in what she has to say. And if she thinks you don’t care, she won’t either.
3. “Fine.”
This word is basically emotional laziness. If she asks how her outfit looks, how your day was, or what you think about something important, and you just say “fine”, yeah, you just failed the test. Put in a little effort, man! Give a real answer.
4. “Chill.”
This one is a cousin of “relax,” and it’s equally dangerous. It might sound harmless to you, but to her, it sounds like you’re brushing off her emotions. Instead of “chill,” try, “I get why you feel that way”, and boom, you just went from zero to hero.
5. “You’re overreacting.”
Oh boy. If you want to see a girl instantly prove she’s NOT overreacting, just say this. No one likes to be told their feelings are invalid. Instead, show some understanding. A simple “I hear you” goes a long way.
6. “Can’t you take a joke?”
Translation: “I said something rude, and now I don’t want to take responsibility for it.” If she didn’t think it was funny, arguing about it won’t make it funnier. Learn to read the room and, if necessary, just apologize.
7. “My ex used to…”
Stop. Right. There. No girl wants to hear about your ex, especially in a comparison. Even if you mean well, bringing up your past relationships is the fastest way to make things awkward. Just leave the ex-talk in the past where it belongs.
8. “You should smile more.”
This might seem like a compliment, but it actually sounds bossy and weird. Girls don’t exist to perform happiness for you. If you want to see her smile, say something funny or nice instead!
9. “I don’t care.”
Nothing screams “I’m not interested in you” louder than these three words. Even if you genuinely don’t have a preference about something (like where to eat), try to at least engage. Saying “You pick, I trust your taste” is way more charming.
Choose Your Words Wisely!
Talking to girls isn’t rocket science, but knowing what NOT to say can make a huge difference. So, before you drop one of these conversation killers, pause and think: Would I want to hear this? If not, switch it up!
Now, your turn, what’s the most awkward thing you’ve ever said to a girl? Or ladies, what’s the worst thing a guy has ever said to you? Drop it in the comments, I need to hear these stories! 😆