Let’s be real, texting a girl you like can feel like defusing a bomb. One wrong move, and BOOM! She’s ghosting you faster than you can type “wyd?” But don’t worry, my friend. If your texts have been getting left on read or, worse, hitting you with dry one-word replies, you’re probably making some common (but fixable) mistakes.
Here are the top 7 texting mistakes you’re making, and exactly how to fix them so she can’t wait to reply!
1. You Text Like a Robot
The Mistake: “Hey. What’s up? How was your day?”
Sounds like an automated message, right? Boring. Predictable. Easily ignorable.
The Fix: Make your texts interesting! Instead of asking generic questions, add some personality:
- “If today was a movie, what genre would it be?”
- “Did you survive Monday, or do you need an emotional support snack?”
- “I bet you had the most chaotic moment today. Spill it!”
This keeps the convo engaging and makes her want to reply.
2. You Double (or Triple) Text Desperately
The Mistake: “Hey?”
“Are you mad at me?”
“Hello??”
Chill, bro. She saw the message. Clingy vibes are NOT attractive.
The Fix: Patience, young grasshopper. Give her time to reply. If she takes hours (or days), keep yourself busy. Confidence is attractive. A girl will text back when she’s interested. If she doesn’t? Move on.
3. You Only Text at Night
The Mistake: If the only time you hit her up is after 10 PM, congrats, you’ve put yourself in “booty call” territory (even if you don’t mean to).
The Fix: Text her at different times of the day. A funny meme in the morning, a casual check-in in the afternoon. Show her you actually want to talk to her, not just when you’re bored at night.
4. You Try Too Hard to Be Funny
The Mistake: Sending 12 memes in a row. Overusing “lol” and “lmao” after every sentence. Making too many jokes to avoid real conversations.
The Fix: A little humor is great! But balance it out. Show her you can actually hold a conversation too. Ask meaningful questions. Make her feel heard, not just entertained.
5. You Text Too Much (And Kill the Mystery)
The Mistake: Telling her your life story over text, responding in 0.2 seconds, never letting the convo breathe.
The Fix: Leave a little mystery. Let her wonder what you’re up to. Don’t always be available, make her excited when you text, not overwhelmed by how much you do.
6. You Flirt Like a Cringey Pickup Artist
The Mistake: “Are you from Tennessee? Because you’re the only ten I see.”
Ew.
The Fix: Flirt naturally. Compliment something unique about her. “I bet you have the most chaotic but cute handwriting.” “Your music taste is dangerously good. I might need a playlist.” Make her feel special, not like she’s the 10th girl you’ve texted that line to.
7. You Don’t Know When to End the Conversation
The Mistake: Dragging the convo until it fizzles out. Turning “goodnight” into another 10 texts.
The Fix: End on a high note. Leave her wanting more. Say something like, “Alright, I gotta go, but remind me to tell you this hilarious story tomorrow!” This gives her a reason to text you again later.
Final Thoughts
Texting isn’t rocket science, but it’s also not a free-for-all. A few tweaks to your approach can turn dry convos into exciting ones, and maybe even lead to that date you’ve been hoping for.