Fellas, let’s get real for a second. Have you ever had that sinking feeling that the girl you’re crushing on is only keeping you around because it’s convenient for her? Maybe she only texts when she needs something, or she acts like you’re invisible when her “real” friends are around. If any of this sounds familiar, don’t panic, but don’t ignore the warning signs either!
It’s time to wise up, king. Here are 5 major signs she’s just using you, and exactly what to do about it.
1. She Only Calls You When She Needs Something
Does she hit you up only when she needs a favor? Maybe it’s homework help, a ride somewhere, or just someone to vent to when no one else is answering. If you feel like her personal assistant rather than a potential boyfriend, that’s a red flag, my guy.
What to Do:
Start saying “no” sometimes. A girl who actually likes you will still want to talk and hang out, even when she doesn’t need something from you.
2. She’s Hot and Cold
One minute, she’s laughing at all your jokes, texting you non-stop, and calling you “bestie” (ugh). The next? She ghosts you for days, only to pop up again when she’s bored.
What to Do:
Don’t play her game. If she’s inconsistent, match her energy. Don’t chase, attract. The right girl will make an effort to keep you around.
3. She Never Puts in Effort
Are you the only one planning hangouts, texting first, and trying to keep the conversation alive? If she doesn’t contribute anything to the “relationship,” she’s not that into you, she’s just keeping you around for convenience.
What to Do:
Stop over-investing in someone who isn’t investing in you. If she’s interested, she’ll step up. If not, let her go and find someone who actually wants to be with you.
4. She Keeps You a Secret
If she’s into you, she’ll want people to know. If she avoids being seen with you, won’t introduce you to her friends, or acts different around others, she might not see you as anything more than a backup option.
What to Do:
Ask yourself: Would I want to be with someone who’s embarrassed to be seen with me? If the answer is no (which it should be), move on.
5. She Talks About Other Guys, A Lot
Does she constantly bring up her “guy best friend” or tell you about her latest crush while you sit there, dying inside? Yeah… she sees you as a friend, a fan, or a free therapist. None of those are good.
What to Do:
Don’t let yourself be the emotional punching bag while she chases other guys. If she keeps bringing up other dudes, tell her straight-up: “Hey, if you like talking about other guys so much, maybe you should date them instead.” Then watch her reaction, it’ll tell you everything.
The Bottom Line: Respect Yourself
If you recognize these signs, don’t just sit there hoping things will change. Respect yourself enough to walk away from someone who doesn’t see your worth. There are plenty of girls out there who will appreciate you, don’t waste your time on the ones who don’t.
What do you think? Have you ever been in a situation like this? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!